About a month ago as we were getting ready for church Axel said, "Mom, maybe when I'm an adult I won't believe in Jesus." Piercing fear in my chest. Surprise, because we've had many spiritually mature conversations. Panic that he might actually be serious. "Why would you say that?" "I just mean that when I'm an adult maybe I won't believe like you do." I get down on the floor. "Axel, look in my eyes. A lot of things we talk about, like the Easter Bunny, are not real. Parent's make them up just to make childhood more whimsical. But Jesus is real. We don't see him, but he is just as real as we are." Axel is looking in my eyes. I am hoping he sees that I believe. "God has promised that you can know for yourself, and you don't have to just believe me." And he didn't have anything else to say and neither did I. So I gave him a hug and he hugged me back. He hasn't said anything like that again and has returned to his excellently spiritually comments, which has soothed me greatly.
Axel turned 6 on Friday and I kept thinking, 'In two short years he'll be baptized.' And it makes me a little bit weepy and sad. I hold a belief, that I cannot support with doctrine, that before the age of 8 the devil and his angels are not allowed to actively tempt children. That they can be subjected to confusion and pain because of the effects of the
Fall and
agency of others, but the adversary cannot try to get them directly. So this is doctrinally unfounded, but sounds like it might be true, and so I accept it as probably true and have viewed this time in my parenthood as my cramming session. This is where I have the advantage. He learns from Paul and me without much opposition. This is the arming stage.
So as we approach his eighth year, I examine myself and ask, "Am I helping him have enough experiences where he can feel the Holy Ghost and learn how God communicates with him? Am I asking him enough questions about his life to create a habit of openness between us? Am I teaching him from the scriptures answers to his questions, so he learns the value of the word of God? Am I being an example of a true Christian? Are we laughing enough together, so that he likes me, as much as I like him?" And the answer is... no and yes both, of course.
So I've thought of a few things I can do to up my game. And my heart feels like it's growing too big for my body as I am filled with concern and pride and confidence and worry about this person who has been entrusted to me. And if you know him, you know he's a substantial person and will be an asset to man and to God. A big spirit in a still little body.
Tonight, unsolicited, in his prayers he said, "Please, comfort Gramma Tena with the Holy Ghost, and that He will whisper to her that she will see Marco again soon." Maggie said, "Please help Gramma Marco to be
resurrected." And my whole body smiles.